Valentine’s Day Isn’t Just a Singles Day

Valentine's Day Isn't Just a Singles Day

Valentine’s Day Isn’t Just a Singles Day


Back in elementary school, Valentine’s Day was my favorite holiday. Better than Christmas, better than Halloween, and so much better than my often icy January birthday.

What could be more wonderful than a plastic-covered shoebox, too much glitter, heart cookies, red punches, and everyone in the class picking out a card to tell you how much they really like you? No wonder I still agonized over missing my third-grade Valentine’s Day party because of a stupid case of chickenpox.

My adult passion for vacations was met with cross-eyed, skeptical, and deep skepticism from friends. Every year I hear the same lament from my uncooperative friends. They were badly affected by the fact that February 14th was “Singles Awareness Day”. Since I’ve been with the same men for 25 years, I think their feelings are mostly a reaction to the seasonal marketing of bland diamonds and discount underwear.

After my ex went to the young ranch during the Trump administration, I realized it was actually on February 14th Yes Singles Awareness Day. even in our modern age. I know a lot of women who are totally distraught because they don’t have a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day, don’t have a boyfriend.

do not trust me? This week, a single friend booked a sleep study on February 14 to get a new CPAP machine. She texted me excitedly that she was going to sleep in someone else’s bed on Valentine’s night! She is probably more passionate about conducting sleep research than anyone in the history of medicine.

Her mood is understandable. Over the last century or so, we’ve made romantic love responsible for all our emotional needs as adults.In her semi-autobiographical masterpiece, the late conservative author and professionally grumpy Florence King describes what it was like to be a single woman in a college sorority in the 1950s Confessions of a Failed Southern Lady. King describes at the time that “finding someone” during college was recognized as more important to most women than finding the right topic for a dissertation.

Times have changed, but not fast enough. Amazon Prime Video just released a romantic comedy called I want you BackThere’s an entire drunken scene at the beginning of the movie where the protagonists discuss the cultural importance of “finding someone” so you don’t die alone.

With a recent report from the U.S. Census Bureau showing that 28 percent of households are now single, up from 13 percent in 1960, it may be time to reconsider the place of romantic love in our society. Changing the way we think about Valentine’s Day would be a great place to start.

Why Valentine’s Day must be all about romantic love Why our social conception of happiness depends on finding the “that” when in reality our warm and affectionate feelings don’t have to depend on a particular person who will agree to be your yin and yang.

One of my favorite things about Valentine’s Day was my trip to the library in February, where I spent a lot of time with the hardcover books in the “Blind Date with Books” section.

At the public library near my mother’s Houston suburbs, they offered beautifully packaged books with enticing descriptions. The title won’t show up until you bring the book home and open the shiny paper.

When I popped into the Deer Park Public Library the other day, the “Book Dating” table was crowded with library patrons. I ended up chatting with a lady who was looking for her second blind date book. She almost finished the first one.

“I committed,” she quipped, about reading a book she had picked based on just a few clues.

You can also use Valentine’s Day as a great opportunity to explore your relationship with painting.I spent a weekend with Sandro Botticelli’s Venus circa 1480, best known for her Birth of Venusa painting that influenced everything from art history to an episode The Simpsons.

I was fortunate that the weekend with Venus did not give me Boss Tondah syndrome, an actual clinical phenomenon in which the presence of a beautiful piece of work or architecture can actually cause physical symptoms including chest pain and loss of consciousness . Kind of like falling in love.

While art can leave us clinically breathless, we should remember that the real St. Valentine is more than a meal for two with substandard wines and soft roses in an overcrowded bistro Reason for dinner.

“Stone. Valentine is the patron saint of unmarried couples, beekeepers, engaged couples, epilepsy, fainting, greetings, happy marriages, love, lovers, plagues, travelers and young people,” explains the Catholic website.

Rather than swiping right on someone’s photo on a dating app, Saint Valentine, the patron saint of plagues, may be calling us on his traditional holiday at this year’s Omicron with a book or gazing at the goddess of art history A small fish.

This Valentine’s Day, my blind date resume is very promising. “Read me if you like books on: Vineyards, Family Secrets, Historical Fiction in Burgundy, France.”

I can’t wait to tear off that sparkly heart and see what’s underneath.

Anna Hanks is a writer in Austin. She wrote this column for the Dallas Morning News.

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