Valentine’s Day 2022: Rule You Before February 14th Rule You


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Valentine's Day 2022: Rule You Before February 14th Rule You

Valentine’s Day 2022: Rule You Before February 14th Rule You

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suitable for couples

Set realistic expectations
Depending on where you came from and how your parents celebrated the day for a loved one, we in turn are inspired to shape our own ideas for how we celebrate and what gifts we would like to receive. We can’t help but be disappointed if it turns out to be different.

Ladies, no matter how high or low your expectations are, you need to talk to your partner. Step out of your fantasy world and be on the same page as your lover. I know it might not feel so romantic to say it, but you will help yourself and your partner.

My heart goes out to men too, because they have the impossible task of guessing what you really want and how they make the ladies happy.

Before talking to your partner, do another reality check. After all, this day is like any other day, so ask yourself if there are other forces weighing on you?

For example, is it a priority to want to post your best celebration image on social media and compare it to your friends? Know what drives you so you can take control and set realistic expectations for both of you.

don’t let it define you
I grew up in a family where Valentine’s Day was a big deal, and every year my dad gave my mom a magnificent gift and a big bouquet of flowers.

Seeing this pattern of celebration over the years has made me firmly believe that my partner from years ago must do the same, because the opposite means I’m not as loved and appreciated as my mother. Prosperity!

Lovers’ Day is destined to be an explosive romance. We had the perfect mix, I wanted some specific Hollywood treatment, and my partner felt pressured to intuit my wishes. Instead of happy hour, we made up an unnecessary conflict recipe.

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only day you check on the status of your relationship. The day usually takes different forms depending on whether people believe in doing something special, not everyone believes in. For some men, it doesn’t make much sense.

plan something together
Negotiations happen not only in business but also in love. Some people don’t like the whole Hallmark vacation, so try to find some middle ground with your partner.

Give each other space to express how you feel about the day: hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. You can also share how your parents celebrated or ignored Valentine’s Day, and what your parents thought about the holiday.

Listen to each other without judgment. Listen, no response. However, it must be specific. For example, your ideal date might be to choose three restaurants, then your partner chooses one, makes a reservation, and brings you a dozen red roses.

Or, if your partner thinks the celebration is too tacky, find another day. After all, it’s about you having a great time together.

ladies’ lesson
Here’s a special note for the ladies who in a billion years will never share what they really want and crave for something special on Valentine’s Day. Instead, they don’t make a sound out of fear of disappointment or being seen as needy.

You may not be used to asking what you want, and your partner may be used to you not really showing any interest on this day. But just this time, try it!

Try to share your desires with your man. It may not be the first time he really gets it, but at least he’ll try, and you’ll have more honest conversations in your relationship for the rest of the year.


single person

Whether you choose to be single, recently broke up, or just haven’t found the right Mr. or Mrs., you don’t have to sit outside your V-Day festivities just because you’re riding alone.

Valentine’s Day isn’t just reserved for couples, so don’t see it as a big reason to feel extra alone, be the kind of person who makes random excuses to celebrate life!

getting Started!
Start by spending some time acknowledging your “singleness” and emphasizing that you don’t let your relationship status affect how you feel about yourself.

As psychotherapist Hilda Burke puts it: “Many single people think their partner is better off — especially on Valentine’s Day. It’s human nature to think the grass is always greener. But the truth is, Being single is neither better nor worse than being a couple.”

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it’s critical to take time every day to embrace your life.

Make V-Day a day to celebrate your love for the special someone in your life – starting with yourself.

don’t be in a bad mood
It is normal to feel sad or lonely from time to time. Even someone in a relationship can feel this way. But indulging in these emotions can lead to self-pity, which doesn’t help.

Look at it another way: Most people are single, and you should expect to meet your future partner instead of questioning whether it will happen.

See the potential, not the limit. Take this opportunity to evaluate your life—good and bad—and choose to be grateful for all the good things in life.

You shouldn’t define the meaning and value of your life by whether or not you’re in a relationship, but that’s what happens so often on Valentine’s Day.

Think of your dating life as an ecosystem: many single men and women come in and out of the market every day.

Your future significant other may be in a relationship and learn some lessons on how to be a better partner. You should learn how to be alone and be happy enough.

Celebrate the day!
While your first thought might be to cheer yourself up by binge-watching a bottle of Netflix on the couch, this strategy can have the opposite effect on your mood.

Instead, make a plan that increases productivity: like doing something you love, or trying something you’ve never done before but always wanted to do. This will help boost your confidence and you will feel very accomplished when you experience new things.

Then, do some self-care exercises like spa treatments, massages, manicures, or a little sexy activity with your toy partner for a full body treatment.

Finally, you can end the day with a night out with a single girlfriend. This will give you a great sense of belonging and connection with others. Plus, wherever you go, there will be plenty of people who are not currently in a relationship, so get involved!

Just another day!
All of this is to say that you can choose your Valentine’s Day gift alone.

Is this a day to celebrate life, cultivate gratitude, enjoy good communication and self-care for a good relationship with yourself and your future/current partner?

Or did the day dampen your self-worth and put your relationship at risk?

Which one will it be?

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